Adoption As The Best Alternative
Imagine that you and your husband have been trying to have children for years, and just haven’t been able to. Wouldn’t that be frustrating? Now, imagine that you’re pregnant, and you know that there is just no way that you’ll be able to give your baby the life he/she deserves. Adoption can solve both of these problems. Adoption truly is the best alternative for families who cannot bear children, or cannot take care of their children properly.
First off, I’d like to cover why adoption is the best alternative for families who cannot bear children. There are very few alternatives for families that find themselves in this situation. One of the more popular solutions is in vitro fertilization. Though IVF does have a higher success rate of pregnancy than intercourse, IVF does not always work, and can be rather expensive. . “As the average IVF cycle charges are between $10,000 and $15,000, analysts have reported costs of about $35,000 per delivery in younger women, while medical costs per delivery are over $132,000 for women over 40.” (Perloe) “I spent tens of thousands of dollars on assisted reproductive
technologies…“ (Falker) Adoption on the other hand is a guaranteed solution which is also more affordable. “… Statistics on Cost of Adopting Cost of Adopting Domestic public agency adoption: Zero to $2,500.” (Statistics on Cost of Adoption) Just because a family wants to have children, does not mean they can afford the medical costs associated with IVF.
Adoption agencies have standards they must follow. These standards don’t allow families that are found to be “unfit” to have a child to be paired with a baby. On the surface, this may sound a bit unfair, but if you stop to think about it these standards are actually a good thing. We’ve all met that one child where you think his parents should have never had kids. Adoption agencies prevent a bad living situation from happening. What this means, is that the families who are trying to have children, and who meet the criteria to be a “Good Family” or a “Good living situation,” can have what they’ve dreamt of. “We fit right in and got used to calling our new parents Mom and Dad like we had been there all our lives. We liked living in the country.”(Badeau) These words are what adoption agencies aim for with all families.
Now lets explore the possibilities for the family who is about to have a kid, but just doesn’t have the means to provide for a baby. First off, I’d like to commend the mothers and/or fathers who have enough courage and humility to admit that they can’t provide for a child, and put them up for adoption. It’s not easy for anyone to give their own flesh and blood up. The only other real alternative for a family or person faced with a baby on the way, and no way to take care of it, is abortion. Abortion is not an easy solution either, but even abortion is not a real option for some people. Certain religions and personal morale beliefs can prevent someone from having an abortion. Either way, the options for someone in that position is to have the child, to have an abortion, or put the child up for adoption.
Just think of how many children are and have been adopted each year. Now imagine that none of those people had existed. What things would have never been invented? What modern day comforts would we be without? “1.7 million – Number of households that contain adopted children. These households comprise 4 percent of all households in which the householder has children.” (US Census Press Release) This statistic is a strong piece of evidence that adoption is not only a working option, but the best working option.
“Please don’t say I look or act just like you. I need you to acknowledge and celebrate our differences.” (Eldridge) “If you stop and take a look at all the children in the world who already need families, it just seems to me that adoption would be the next logical step if you can’t have children biologically. Any person should be able to love any child. That’s the way I see it.” (Aye) Throughout the world there are so many children who are in need of a family to love them, and to treasure them. It only seems logical that adoption would be the best solution. It’s proven to be more cost effective, more reliable, and it can keep both parties happy. Adoption is definitely the best alternative. Remember, adoption not only is a solution for an anxious family, or a soon-to-be troubled parent. Adoption is a life changing event that gives a child who had little or no hope, a brand new life full of opportunities and love.
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